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Politics of MumDom Bottlefor2

General Election week in the UK. I watched as people shared their opinions, and didn’t.

I said stuff too.

There are some people who like to talk honestly about their values and opinions, and share them. Some others don’t.

Each to their own. Each is perfectly fine.

Some people don’t mind a heated debate on social media; others would rather politely share what they are comfortable with, but keep the controversial stuff for themselves.

I found this an interesting comparison with the “good mum” vs ” bad mum” conversation that has been doing the rounds over the internet for the past week or two.

If you are not familiar with this debate, in very simple terms, the way some parents communicate about their family doesn’t sit well with others. Whether you are a share the joy, only the joy- Mum, or a my kids are nutters, pass me the Gin- Mum, there are people who relate to us all.

It’s a bit like politics really.

We are all entitled to free speech (thank democracy). We have control over what we choose to read, and how we respond to it; and we all have our own set of values to dictate what we feel is appropriate to share.

And no doubt, we all differ. Yet we’ll all find people who want to join in and vote for us. People will relate to what we say, they are a member of our ‘party’.

There is no need for the “good mum” vs “bad mumjudgement. It’s just politics.

Whether you are a member of the ‘rose tinted’ party, the ‘organic parenting’ party, the ‘conservative party’ or the ‘tell it how it is’ party; thank goodness there are ‘votes for women’! No-one needs to throw themselves under a racehorse here.

We all are doing a good job in our own way, and luckily no one has to vote for us to allow us to keep our job as parent. We all use the values we hold true to ourselves.

I’m guessing you are well intentioned, full of love, doing the best for your child, and dealing with that in your own way. Perhaps a lesson for politicians here?

In my opinion, as long as you stay well away from the Jeremy Kyle show, abhor the behaviour you see by the majority of guests on that show, and don’t believe that life should be handed to you on a plate – for nothing; you’ll be alright.

But that’s just me.

Controversial? Sometimes.

Love my family – the whole time.

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  • Completely agree. I do genuinely believe that the vast majority of parents want nothing more than to do right by their children. We each take different approaches based on our own style and the nature of our children, each of whom is unique. There is no one size fits all solution. There is no one ‘right’ or ‘better’ way. So often, what works for A won’t work for B. Different is different – no more, no less.

    As for politics, I voted one way. Other people voted another. Similarly, there is no right or wrong – only philosophical differences. Looking at each party’s manifesto, I disagreed with parts of all of them. There was no ‘right’, no ‘perfect’. The only people I truly despair of are the 34% of the electorate who didn’t vote at all. I could go into all kinds of reasons why voting, even in the safest of safe seats, remains important, but I won’t here. I would instead say only that if you don’t buy a ticket to the raffle, you don’t get to complain about who won.

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  • I swear this is a benefit of being a dad blogger. You tend to miss most of the parent politics! #BrilliantBlogPosts

    • Hi John, yes it does seem the Dads are more supportive of each other in this regard. You don’t diss each other’s parenting style like some Mums do. I wonder why this is? Different beings? I am hoping it was just a phase and now people have it out their system they can accept each person has their own way of doing things, and move on. Each to their own.

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