Six simple things for yourself and your sanity
When I got to the end of the week, I was feeling run down with a cold, shattered and not at all myself. So I vowed to to do a few simple things at the weekend to try and make me feel better. A true ‘from baby brain to me again’ experience in six simple steps.
Here are my top tips to revive your pre-mum-ness on the weekend:
- Put on your make-up!
It’s amazing how much more like you, you feel when you look like you used to before you had a baby. When I say pre baby, I mean within reason, of course. I’m still fatter than I was, with saggier skin and my black eyes are pretty much printed on. Putting on a full face of make-up would help the black eyes. Bit of concealer, touche eclat, whatever your poison.
Putting on make-up generally goes out the window post baby. These days, in a hurry, I tend to slap on a bit of anti-aging serum (God knows I need it now), some moisturiser and just mascara. Job done, it’s all I have time for. (I literally won’t leave the house without mascara, I still have some standards I can’t let go).
This minimal make-up would have been unheard of for me before the baby.
I would always wear at least eye-liner and mascara! Plus foundation, bronzer, lipgloss, and when I had time, eye shadow. When I looked in the mirror this week, I saw a very tired pale person with a red nose. And seeing me look crap made me feel crap. So yesterday, because my husband was able to look after the baby for a while, I put my makeup on properly, and I actually felt much better for it.
Seriously, enjoy the peace and forget the chores. Just be for half an hour with your favourite beverage. Give yourself a break, stop beating yourself up about whatever it is you obviously are, and chillax. If you can manage more than half an hour, great, but I’m trying to be realistic!
- Put on some tunes!
Ah the magic of music. It either brings you out of yourself or helps you delve deeper into your thoughts. I forget to listen to music these days. Unless its the Disney CD I’m singing to the baby, or me repeating the Doc McStuffins song “time for your check up” on repeat. I can’t help it, it’s catchy. Yes, my daughter loves Doc McStuffins. I let her watch TV. Sometimes it’s the only preoccupation I can use to get her meals ready!
Anyway, I really mean your tunes. Not the kiddies tunes.
I defy anyone to not feel uplifted after a bit of Uptown Funk. It’s enough to make you bust out some moves on the kitchen floor. Don’t believe me, just watch!
- Light a scented candle.
Never underestimate the power of a scented candle. Best done in the evening after the babes are in bed. Enjoy the aroma and feel it transform you to a place that doesn’t smell of nappies / socks / dogs (delete as appropriate).
It’s amazing what scent can do. Especially for memories. I remember in the pre baby days my husband and I took a trip to New York for my birthday and we stayed at The Trump, Soho. The smell of that place, when you walk in, is amazing. Clever really, as there are so many other places we’ve stayed in our lives that are less memorable, and it could be down to smell! I keep trying to find that scent to transform me back there in a memory. I really ought to ask them what it is!
- Go to the hairdressers.
I know it can be hard to find the time, but get your husband /partner/ parents to babysit, and head off to the hairdresser. Amazing how much better you feel when your hair is not left to fend for itself for the day. Plus it might be the only time you get to read a magazine or drink a hot cup of tea until the next time you go! I felt lighter when I left. (I had chopped off a few inches of hair mind you!)
- Tidy the toys away so you can’t see them.
Does your lounge resemble a playroom? If you can -be -arsed one evening, put all the toys away out of sight. When we can-be-arsed, we hide them behind the sofa (as we have very little storage). But it is so nice to see my lovely rug again and a clear room. Tidy room, tidy mind. Clean room, happy mummy. It won’t last, but enjoy it while you can.
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